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Facing my Fears: Afraid to Travel

Have you ever been travelling and when it has come time to move on you can’t or don’t want to? I am facing my fears on that at the moment.

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We are strong believers that slow travel is the best way to see the world. We don’t like rushing through every city and country gathering stamps in our passport.

That’s why we choose to work abroad while on our adventures. It allows us to travel for longer. It is why we lived in Jasper National Park for a year before choosing our European base in Edinburgh.

Edinburgh Castle Braveheart Scotland

Our original idea was to stay a few months in different places to experience a part of the globe before skipping off to the next destination.

That was two years ago.

Before I knew it our temporary destination has become our home away from home.  The driver on my bus to work knows my name. I recognize people in my local supermarket.

And now that we are facing the possibility of leaving I find myself scared. I am too attached to leave, but don’t really want to stay.

I am afraid to travel.

How did this happen to us? When did we forget our travel purpose of being temporary residents in a city?

In hindsight I made a few mistakes.

I found a really good group of friends. I am in a job I really enjoy and could easily see myself here in five years time. I have even scoped out a local coffee shop with a gorgeous chocolate cake on the menu.

Cake Edinburgh, Love Crumbs
Cake Edinburgh, Love Crumbs
Cake Edinburgh, Love Crumbs
Cake Edinburgh, Love Crumbs

In essence I have made myself a life here. And now I feel like I am going to be leaving home for the second time.

But as I sit here writing this post, I can see our motivation in the background. A giant map of the world. And I am reminded that Edinburgh is a very small part of that world. There are so many places I still want to see.

World Map

And moving isn’t all that bad.

Moving to a new place is exciting. Exploring new neighborhoods, eating at new restaurants and finding secret views for the first time.

It can be so easy to lose sight of your travel goals. That is why travelling as a couple is so great. We can remind each other of our purpose.

Cole is great at cheering me up when I start to get sad about leaving. But all it takes is a small reference to a city on my bucket list dream list and I am dreaming of the future in a new destination…

Three Valleys Sunset

This might become our next temporary home.

So as I finish this article I am happier than when I started writing. I cannot call myself a traveller if I am not facing my fears and I am reminded that the world really is our oyster. We have so many great adventures ahead of us to experience.

While it will be hard, it will be worth it.

All we have to do is take the leap.

This is a post from a series called Facing my Fears. It helps us to step outside our comfort zone, in comfort. Check out the rest of the series here.

Tell us about how you Face your Fears when moving to a new destination in the comments.

Adela is one half of the New Zealand Adventure Couple who have been travelling since 2009. She loves the outdoors and has a real passion for Snowboarding, Mountain Biking and Surfing (apart from being scared of sharks). She loves food and writes all our food posts. Consider following us via RSS Feed, Twitter, Facebook and subscribe to our Newsletter.

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Everything You Need To Know Before Buying A Yacht

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Spending time on a yacht is a great way to relax. You can cruise, do water sports, try your luck in fishing, or you can even entertain guests on your yacht. However, a yacht is still a significant investment, so you must learn as much as possible before buying one.

If you are pondering buying a yacht, there are several things that you need to know. You should ask yourself what type of yacht you want to buy and what type best suits your needs.

Aside from this, you also need to determine your budget for purchasing a yacht. Boating safety courses and trial runs are also essential to ensure your safety while on your chosen yacht.

What Do You Want In A Yacht?

 

When buying a yacht, you must ask yourself, “What do I want in a yacht?” Do you want the yacht to be big? Do you want to use the yacht for fishing?

Answering the questions about the yacht you want can help you determine your priorities in buying a yacht. Take, for example, if you want to utilize your yacht for watersports. Certain types of yachts cater to watersports, like wakeboarding and wake surfing.

Another popular way to spend time on your yacht is an overnight cruise. If you want to do this, you should consider the size of the yacht you want to buy. Can it accommodate passengers sleeping onboard?

Questions like these can help determine if you need different amenities in a yacht, like cabins, cooktops, and relaxation areas.

How Much is Your Budget?

Now that you have determined what you seek in a yacht, it is crucial to set a comfortable price for your pockets. When buying a yacht, you can get carried away by all the types and models available.

It might be tempting to go above your budget when buying a yacht, especially when so many options are available. However, it is vital to research yacht prices on manufacturer websites, as well as sites of brokers and dealers.

After all, it is necessary to keep the costs of maintaining a yacht in mind. Some costs of owning a yacht include insurance, repairs, fuel, and general upkeep.

Determining your budget for the yacht and sticking to it can make the most out of your yacht purchase.

Where Do You Buy A Yacht?

Since a yacht is a significant investment, going to a trusted and reliable dealer is your best bet. You can visit websites or written material to gather information about a prospective dealer.

Seasoned dealers need to know your lifestyle to determine what type of yacht suits you best. They can ask questions about your boating preferences, whom you boat with, and other similar queries. They use this information to match you to the yacht that best fulfills your needs at the right price.

Should You Try the Yacht Before You Buy It?

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Try and test the yacht that piques your interest as much as possible. If you know a yacht owner with a model you are interested in, you could ask to check the yacht out. Doing this helps you assess the amenities and features of the yacht before you make the big purchase.

Boat shows, if available, are also good ways to see and assess the yacht of your choice. Well-known brands do these shows, allowing you to see and experience the yacht.

What About Your Safety?

Some places require a recreational boat license for you to sail on your yacht. However, you can easily avail classes to sharpen your boating skills. These can help you learn how to sail on a boat and some basic safety measures while on your yacht.

You can look for information on the official website of your local or national maritime safety authority.

How Do You Buy A Yacht?

Buying a yacht might seem like a long, detailed process, but it is pretty straightforward. First, you need to find out what you want in a yacht. In other words, determine your purpose for buying a yacht.

The next step is to set a clear budget and the amenities and size of the yacht you want to buy.

Conclusion

Sailing on a yacht is not a simple task, so acquire all the necessary documents to operate a yacht. The necessary paperwork can include a boating license, boating safety courses, and other relevant documents.

Test the yacht before you commit to it, and make sure that you are comfortable with it before purchasing it. You can attend boat shows and dealer demos or ask someone with a similar yacht to let you assess their yacht.

Lastly, find a yacht dealer that wants the best for you. Finding the best dealer can make your yacht buying process much more manageable. Reliable dealers will keep your budget and goals in mind while matching you to the yacht of your dreams!

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The Top Ways To Avoid Relapse While On Holiday

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Heading away on holiday is always a time of opulence and excess, whether that be diving into the chocolate scene of Belgium, the gelato of Italy or the pilsners of Germany, but in the case of the latter, when you’re suffering from addiction, the temptation of alcohol can be extremely alluring.

In fact, when travelling there are many scenarios where alcohol can be all too tempting, and if you need addiction help to try and avoid that, doing so in a foreign language can be difficult. Of course, there are ways to connect with councillors from home these days via the likes of Zoom and video call. However, avoiding relapse while on holiday is the main goal, whether the bar at an all-inclusive is too much, or the free flowing booze on a cruise or at a nightclub is becoming even more appealing.

We have a habit of letting our guard down on holiday, so here are a few tips for you to avoid doing that and ensuring you don’t relapse.

Plan ahead

You’ll perhaps be able to identify where you may struggle well before you board a plane to go on holiday, so plan for those occasions. This will allow you to be mentally prepared for those challenges, and it may be that you avoid them completely if you’re not feeling up to the challenge that day.

Assess each activity and each part of your holiday as a risk and also be aware of any triggers that you may encounter as you go through the holiday. The best thing to do is have a plan of action in place, so if usually you would spend the afternoon by the bar on a relaxing, laze-by-the-pool type holiday, take a book or some puzzles for you to do instead. Boredom can often lead to relapse, so do ensure you avoid that.

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Maintain your routine

A big part of staying in recovery is having a routine and that will ensure that your mind stays in the right position to battle away any temptation. If you do yoga at home to maintain your focus for staying healthy and in recovery, then do that while you’re away too.

In fact, your new routine may even have become a passion and you could visit parts of the world that have yoga retreats, where you can not only stay on the wagon, but also aid your recovery further.

Avoid people who could encourage relapse and stay in touch with your support network

People are a big part of staying sober. In some cases they can cause relapse, in others they can be the support network you need to stay on track. Firstly, keep in touch with those that can help you, whether it’s going away with them or just checking in on a day-to-day basis.

Secondly, avoid people that could cause relapse. That includes friends you may go on holiday with that have previously been damaging to your addiction, or meeting new friends on holiday that may encourage drinking.

We often get talking to other people while away, just make sure they aren’t going to be the type of person that may cause you to take a drink that will leave you back to square one. It’s a holiday, you should be enjoying yourself, after all.

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My Insane The Red Light District Tour of The Amsterdam Peep Shows

Have you ever wanted to visit an Amsterdam peep show? We had the chance to go and embraced it with open arms. Check out our experience here

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Amsterdam Peep Show

An Amsterdam peep show in the red light district is a must, like visiting the Eiffel Tower in Paris. Okay, slightly different. But you have got to go for the erotic experience!

And if you have ever wanted to visit Amsterdam, then more than likely, you are going to be interested in checking out a peep show in the red light district. It might be a worthwhile tour, to check out Amsterdam’s Red Light District.

Amsterdam Moulin Rouge Red Light District

Something about the red light district brothels draws the punters and tourists alike in. Maybe the bright red neon lights illuminate the darkened alleyways that pull them in like moths to a flame. Or the bars and coffee shops that let a certain smell waft lazily across the glistening canals.

Or maybe it is just the fact that sex does sell.

My Amsterdam Peep Show Tour

When we visited Amsterdam with a couple of friends, we spent what I now consider an embarrassingly long time in that same area. The fact is that we seriously could not get enough. Then we headed over to Germany, where high-class escorts had us covered.

Not like that, of course!

We couldn’t believe that everyone is so open and carefree about what is, for all intents and purposes, window shopping for sex. The number of guys knocking on windows and being ushered behind the curtains of every room was staggering.

However, we have not enticed ourselves to fork over 50 euros but were intrigued enough to want to check out an Amsterdam peep show. I want to clarify here that it was Adela that was the keenest. I didn’t want to let her down, so I went along with it…

Amsterdam Red Light District

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Visiting the Amsterdam peep show

Much to our surprise, there is only one Amsterdam peep show left in the whole city back in 2012!

The very name initially “Sex Palace” is situated on the banks of one of the main canals in the heart of the red-light district on Oudezijds Achterburgwal street. Walking under the neon flashing lights into the entranceway, your senses are assaulted by sights, sounds, and disturbingly smell.

All around the walls are posters and screens showing ladies in various states of undress and positions. A whiteboard lists the movies you can rent out for your viewing pleasure in one of the many private booths. But we were only there for one thing:

The circular structure sits slightly to the left of the entrance with a dozen small doors along its walls.

Those small doors lead into equally small rooms no larger than a traditional UK phone box. A small covered viewing window blocks your view forward.

The money box clinging to the wall to operate the viewing window only accepts coins. But don’t worry if you only have notes as they handily have a large coin machine dishing out 2 euro coins for ease of watching.

Once you close the door and chuck in your money, the viewing window pops open for 2 minutes and allows you to view the large, slowly-rotating stage on which a scantily-dressed woman displays herself. She could have represented any country in the upcoming Olympics with her flexibility!

Amsterdam peep show Sex Palace

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I was cracking up laughing the entire time I was in there because you can just make out the rest of the “audience” in the opposite booths. I even got a little wave and smile as the girl slowly revolved past my window.

The Amsterdam peep show was a little bit creepy. But even though we were there late on a Saturday night, the booths were making a roaring trade. From the hen parties to the couples, nearly everyone else was there for the same reason as us. To check out one or two rounds before heading back into the night giggling like school girls at a sleepover at what we had just done.

On the other hand, the shifty-eyed single men skulked away to their respective viewing windows again and again with pockets full of coins.

If you ever get the chance, we highly recommend taking the plunge and visiting an Amsterdam peep show. Just make sure that you are always respectful of the women in the performances and the ones on the streets!

Top 10 Amsterdam Peep Shows in 2022

  • 1 | Stripclub BonTon
  • 2 | Male Strip Show in Amsterdam For Women
  • 3 | Casa Rosso Sex Shows
  • 4 | 5D Porn Cinema
  • 5 | Moulin Rouge Amsterdam
  • 6 | Bananenbar
  • 7 | Sex Palace Peep Show
  • 8 | Hospital Bar
  • 9 | Club LV
  • 10 | La Vie en Proost – Lapdance Bar in Red Light District

Have you ever been to an Amsterdam Peep Show or a Sex show? Tell us about your experience.

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Cole and AdelaWe have been wearing out our jandals (Kiwi for flip-flops) on our travel adventures around the world since 2009. We think our blog is thought provoking and a little witty. But we have been proven wrong before. Find out more about us here...

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