Tips for Couples Travel: Keeping Romance alive

| November 27, 2013 | 60 Comments

When you are travelling as a couple it is really important to remember to keep romance alive. These tips for couples travel will hopefully help.

You have to take great care to not only keep each other happy but also to celebrate special events such as anniversaries and other romantic moments in your lives.

Why?

Because travelling can take it’s toll on even the strongest relationships.

A lack of sleep while crossing different time zones will leave nerves frayed. While the stress of navigating your way around a foreign country will rattle tensions further. And to top it off you will be in each others faces through the good times and the bad 24/7.

Hospital Broken Collarbone Marmot Basin Ski Area

Adela in hospital after breaking her collarbone

Considering that with most budget travel, your savings will not usually allow for extra expenses such as romantic dinners which can help to recharge those relationship batteries. Instead you will find yourself arguing over whose turn it is to cook the spaghetti on toast!

With Valentines Day nearly upon us it might be worthwhile sharing some of our own little secrets of how we travel as a couple.

So how do we find the energy while on the road keep from tearing each others heads off every second day?

It’s easy!

Think outside the box

You shouldn’t have to look very far from where you are at that moment to gain just a little bit of inspiration. Travelling is romantic in it’s very nature!

Valentines Day in Paris

Sure you may not be in one of the most romantic cities of the world like Paris or having an epic Hawaii holiday on the beach. But, you are likely to be somewhere that isn’t home! That is what makes it special.

Stop being a tourist and slow down

I don’t mean for the entire time you travel but you can definitely spare a day or even an hour to slow down. For that short period you need to stop, think and act like a local.

What do locals do to keep their romance alive wherever you are? I am sure that they don’t wake up at the crack of dawn to be the first in line at the local attractions! No, they sleep in and savour each others company. Or they just stroll hand in hand through a park.

By slowing down you will enjoy those moments of madness as you run to make your train travel trip because you know you can chill out sometime soon.

Samoa waterfalls

Don’t be selfish

Travelling as a couple is all about compromise. If you have chosen the last 2 places to eat at or the last activity then it is time to hand over the reins. There is nothing worse than just getting to enjoy what you want while the other grins and bears it.

Other selfishness acts can be as simple as showing a little bit of courtesy. All it may take is to help her put on her backpack after a long day of hauling it around a dusty city and the romance will be kept alive.

Don’t sweat the small stuff

You need to let the small things slide. You know that really cute chewing sound she makes when she is eating her food? Well that kind of starts to grind on your nerves when it is just the two off you.

But if you cannot learn to accept those small imperfections (and face it everyone has them and I am clearly no god myself) then the bigger worries are really going to set a wedge between you.

Time outs

Travelling is all about sharing special moments together. But, and I cannot stress this enough, everyone needs space.

Whether you like to chill out by going for a run, reading your book or just pondering life’s mysteries with a beer in hand then make time for it. Just tell them upfront and trust me they will understand.

In fact they probably can’t wait to get away from you too!

Take time out when travelling as a couple

Take time out when travelling as a couple

Laugh

We have had some epic fights on our travels and have spent whole days silently driving across America not talking to one another. Do you know how hard it is to give your significant other the silent treatment for 8 hours when they are sitting next to you in the car?!

Let me tell you, it is near on impossible.

Those times are tough but as you sit in silence you will realise just how stupid the situation is. Here you are halfway around the world from your family and you only have one other person to rely on.

When you are laughing most of the time then the small arguments will bounce right off.

Four Jandals Maid of the Mist

Laugh at how ridiculous you look when acting like a tourist!

Spend time with others

Human beings are social in their very nature. Why do you think girls like to sit around with other girls and talk at a million miles an hour? It’s because we crave interaction.

I am quite happy to just chill out and be quiet. Adela on the other hand loves to talk. Early on in our travels I could not figure out how she can sometimes stand my quiet moments? Then it dawned on me.

It’s because we always find the time to interact with others on the road. If you spend your whole time abroad and only talk to one another then it is going to be one helluva boring trip.

Travel is about meeting others. When you do finally get that time alone together you will relish in it!

Date night

Most couples usually have date nights when they are at home. So why not when you are travelling?

I know I said earlier that most of the time budget travel won’t allow for you to go out for romantic dinners. But who said you have to spend $200 on a meal with a bottle of wine. Instead make a picnic and go chill out on the beach for a few hours.

Or just blow that budget and splurge! While your wallet might hate you, your relationship will thank you and the romance will be kept alive.

Splurging on chocolate in Quebec City

Splurging on delicious chocolate in Quebec City

Do you have any couples travel tips you want to share?

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Cole is one half of New Zealand's leading adventure travel blogging couple who have been wearing out their jandals around the world since 2009. He loves any adventure activities and anything to do with the water whether it is Surfing, Diving, Swimming, Snorkeling or just lounging nearby on the beach. You can follow Cole on Google+. Or consider following us via RSS Feed, Twitter, Facebook and subscribe to our Newsletter.

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  1. Laurence says:

    Travelling 24/7 with someone is a serious test of a relationship :) Still.. if your relationship survives it.. you’re pretty much ready for anything!

  2. I really liked this. It’s a lot of the things that my boyfriend and I did while we were travelling. We both love meeting other people and would sometimes spend every night with groups of people. Occasionally we would just pull each other aside and say, hey lets just have dinner by ourselves tonight. Looking after each other is also one of our key motto’s. He’s great at helping me with my bag, carrying some of my heavier things while I like getting up and making or buying him breakfast because he’s a later sleeper than me. Travelling together made our trip so nice because we always had each other to talk to and help with everything. I wouldn’t give up our travel adventures for anything!!

    • Cole says:

      Totally agree with you on all your points Trudy and we are the same! It’s funny the roles that you assume on the road just to help each other out a little bit :) It’s amazing how much we rely on each other all the time actually!

  3. Great tips you guys…We learned many of these the hard way, but tend to stick to most of what you’ve listed. Our biggest is the alone or quiet time…It’s good for us to venture apart for a few hours and recharge the batteries…

  4. Sam says:

    Nice article. Good ideas. Relationships do need work and travel can create some pretty big ups and downs. Knowing there will be times when your relationship isn’t the happiest can certainly help you move past it faster and reduce the frequency and severity of the downers.

  5. Andrew says:

    Are you eating the ears first? So they can’t hear the rest?

    We have done some travel together. Actually a lot of our time together has been in travel mode for one or the other of us. We are learning alot about each other doing it. We push each other and support each other. We are also learning that we travel much better together than apart.

    I like the list. Especially the part about spending time alone as well as with other people and not just the 2 of you 100% of the time.

  6. Great article! I think james and I need to try to “date night” idea :D

  7. Nice tips for couples. As a solo backpacker I can barely take care of myself :P

  8. Steph says:

    I definitely agree with these! Taking some alone time is always really important for me. I’m a pretty independent, solitary person so it can be rough for me to spend 24 hours a day with someone else. It helps sometimes just to go out for a walk alone or spend some time reading.

    Another one we’ve learned? Never fight on an empty stomach!

  9. I’ve never traveled with a significant other, but I’ll keep these tips in mind when I do.

  10. Great tips even if you aren’t on the road!

  11. sharon says:

    Hi there. I read your blog / adventures with interest. You are quite the duo :)

    I decided to nominate you for the versatile blogger award today. Here is the link
    http://abumptothehead.wordpress.com/2012/02/23/920/

    Cheers

  12. Oh, puppy love. It warms my heart and gives me warm fuzzies inside. Well, you two certainly seem to have it all worked out (love the part about being one of the locals). Congrats. If only I wasn’t stuck on the lone ranger bit I would definitely follow the same path. My story is a little different. James Bond. I ride alone ;)

  13. cheryl says:

    Great tips! And glad to see you two manage to keep your romance alive. :)

  14. Great tips! I’ve been traveling as a couple now for a year and eight months. Funny thing is-we’ve been a couple for that long haha. You really do get to know a person when traveling with him or her, but a significant other even more. It’s amazing having someone to share your adventures with, but it’s important to remember that not every day will be perfect. Hope you guys had a great Valentine’s Day!

    • Cole says:

      Thanks Bobbi. We are not too big on Valentines Day and our anniversary is the week before (lucky for me, not so lucky for Adela haha). Glad you are enjoying couples travel!

  15. Asia says:

    Love this article- thanks a ton you two!! My husband and I have been country-hopping since November and so far we’ve been in the craziest situations that have not only tested our comfort levels to some pretty high points, but also our marriage in ways we never could’ve imagined! It’s a crazy, fun, scary, insane game- taking your relationship on a ride like this. But like Laurence said, and we totally agree, if our relationship can survive this…then bring it on!!

    Great post and happy travels!

  16. desert safari dubai says:

    Lovely posts by Cole& Adela

  17. Megan Jones says:

    What great advice. I think that you could take all the advice out of the context of travelling and it would be just good relationship advice! I particularly liked your advice about not sweating the small stuff. I think we often get caught up in minutiae and lose perspective. Just take a step back and take a breath and I bet the fight will melt away!

  18. Agree on all points!
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  19. Jewel says:

    Two Jandals missing from the bikini shot buddy!!
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  20. Love all these tips. I have learned a lot on this post, will apply these on our next romantic trip next year.

  21. Jeff says:

    Great tips man. I do agree with you a little space works wonders. It has been working to us very well. It gives us the opportunity to reflect back and to face the situation squarely.
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  22. Hannah says:

    Awesome tips while traveling. Especially now that I have been traveling with my husband for almost half a year already.
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  23. Ivana says:

    Lovely… Time spent alone helps, indeed.
    We just started our journey, so most probably we will need some tips :)
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  24. Haha! I can really relate to this. My husband and I been traveling since 2010 and I couldn’t count the argument, debate and cold war but it ended up to a deeper bond and love. Such a great site you have! Keep the love burning.

  25. Renuka says:

    Great tips! Yes, travel in itself is romantic. :)
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  26. Jade Adele says:

    Great tips :)

    It definitely isn’t always easy to stay cool and collected, but remembering that you guys are made for each other always helps!!

    Looks like you guys are doing a good job of it too :)

    Yeay for happy couples!
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  27. Thanks for all this lovely tips. They are so sweet. :) Keep posting.
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  28. Love these tips and think a lot of them apply to solo travelers too! Being willing to slow down, take in a new place like a local, talk and interact with other travelers and locals, and be willing to push yourself outside your comfort zone – everyone can benefit from these tips for couples.
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  29. Superb Tips!.I use to travel a lot with my wife and we always enjoy our trip where ever we go.Keep on posting such a lovely tips.

  30. Traveling as a couple is “the ultimate test of true love”. After traveling full-time long term with my partner I knew this is the man I would marry and have a family with! I can’t recommend it enough for couples.. even if it is to travel for a shorter period of time, you learn SO MUCH of one another!

  31. Susan says:

    Hi Cole,
    Can’t agree more..This is basically a summary of the life of an ideal couple..Great read and worth sharing.

    Thanks
    Susan

  32. Adam says:

    We personally love to travel but we never considered most of these things, and they are all great advice so they will help make our trips much better.Thanks For sharing good Points

  33. Oh date night… truer words were never spoken. Great tips!
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  34. ethanbrown says:

    Really great post…Thanks to share your great advice and experience..

  35. As someone that has been there/done that and has the scars to prove it, I think this very good advice. Especially the not sweating the small stuff. Good advice for life too!
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  36. Adrian Tanase says:

    Lack of sleep always makes you nervous, so sleep more.

  37. Katie says:

    Giving each other space is vital, as most people don’t spend time in each other’s company 24/7 all the time … we all need our alone time!
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  38. Silently driving across the US sounds familiar haha.
    I would definitely say laughing is key. If you can laugh about anything and everything you’ll be in good shape. Nice tips Cole.
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  39. I’m not sure about the Martin Luther’s quote, or how relevant it is in our modern society; But I love likening marriage to a garden. Sometime you just can’t sum up the energy or enthusiasm, but when you do…. it is well worth the effort

  40. Honestly, I think that a beautiful holiday, even on the lowest budget, can help any relationship. We all need that “alone time” in two. :)

  41. Tom says:

    Trust and space, both are the most important components that help to keep any relation alive. If you cant trust your mate, you will always find yourself alone.

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