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Tips for Couples Travel: Keeping Romance alive

Travelling as a couple on the road can be extremely hard. Use our tips for couples travel to help your travels especially in time for Valentines Day.

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When you are travelling as a couple it is really important to remember to keep romance alive. These tips for couples travel will hopefully help.

You have to take great care to not only keep each other happy but also to celebrate special events such as anniversaries and other romantic moments in your lives.

Why?

Because travelling can take it’s toll on even the strongest relationships.

A lack of sleep while crossing different time zones will leave nerves frayed. While the stress of navigating your way around a foreign country will rattle tensions further. And to top it off you will be in each others faces through the good times and the bad 24/7.

Hospital Broken Collarbone Marmot Basin Ski Area

Adela in hospital after breaking her collarbone

Considering that with most budget travel, your savings will not usually allow for extra expenses such as romantic dinners which can help to recharge those relationship batteries. Instead you will find yourself arguing over whose turn it is to cook the spaghetti on toast!

With Valentines Day nearly upon us it might be worthwhile sharing some of our own little secrets of how we travel as a couple.

So how do we find the energy while on the road keep from tearing each others heads off every second day?

It’s easy!

Think outside the box

You shouldn’t have to look very far from where you are at that moment to gain just a little bit of inspiration. Travelling is romantic in it’s very nature!

Valentines Day in Paris

Sure you may not be in one of the most romantic cities of the world like Paris or having an epic Hawaii holiday on the beach. But, you are likely to be somewhere that isn’t home! That is what makes it special.

Stop being a tourist and slow down

I don’t mean for the entire time you travel but you can definitely spare a day or even an hour to slow down. For that short period you need to stop, think and act like a local.

What do locals do to keep their romance alive wherever you are? I am sure that they don’t wake up at the crack of dawn to be the first in line at the local attractions! No, they sleep in and savour each others company. Or they just stroll hand in hand through a park.

By slowing down you will enjoy those moments of madness as you run to make your train travel trip because you know you can chill out sometime soon.

Samoa waterfalls

Don’t be selfish

Travelling as a couple is all about compromise. If you have chosen the last 2 places to eat at or the last activity then it is time to hand over the reins. There is nothing worse than just getting to enjoy what you want while the other grins and bears it.

Other selfishness acts can be as simple as showing a little bit of courtesy. All it may take is to help her put on her backpack after a long day of hauling it around a dusty city and the romance will be kept alive.

Don’t sweat the small stuff

You need to let the small things slide. You know that really cute chewing sound she makes when she is eating her food? Well that kind of starts to grind on your nerves when it is just the two off you.

But if you cannot learn to accept those small imperfections (and face it everyone has them and I am clearly no god myself) then the bigger worries are really going to set a wedge between you.

Time outs

Travelling is all about sharing special moments together. But, and I cannot stress this enough, everyone needs space.

Whether you like to chill out by going for a run, reading your book or just pondering life’s mysteries with a beer in hand then make time for it. Just tell them upfront and trust me they will understand.

In fact they probably can’t wait to get away from you too!

Take time out when travelling as a couple

Take time out when travelling as a couple

Laugh

We have had some epic fights on our travels and have spent whole days silently driving across America not talking to one another. Do you know how hard it is to give your significant other the silent treatment for 8 hours when they are sitting next to you in the car?!

Let me tell you, it is near on impossible.

Those times are tough but as you sit in silence you will realise just how stupid the situation is. Here you are halfway around the world from your family and you only have one other person to rely on.

When you are laughing most of the time then the small arguments will bounce right off.

Four Jandals Maid of the Mist

Laugh at how ridiculous you look when acting like a tourist!

Spend time with others

Human beings are social in their very nature. Why do you think girls like to sit around with other girls and talk at a million miles an hour? It’s because we crave interaction.

I am quite happy to just chill out and be quiet. Adela on the other hand loves to talk. Early on in our travels I could not figure out how she can sometimes stand my quiet moments? Then it dawned on me.

It’s because we always find the time to interact with others on the road. If you spend your whole time abroad and only talk to one another then it is going to be one helluva boring trip.

Travel is about meeting others. When you do finally get that time alone together you will relish in it!

Date night

Most couples usually have date nights when they are at home. So why not when you are travelling?

I know I said earlier that most of the time budget travel won’t allow for you to go out for romantic dinners. But who said you have to spend $200 on a meal with a bottle of wine. Instead make a picnic and go chill out on the beach for a few hours.

Or just blow that budget and splurge! While your wallet might hate you, your relationship will thank you and the romance will be kept alive.

Splurging on chocolate in Quebec City

Splurging on delicious chocolate in Quebec City

Do you have any couples travel tips you want to share?

Cole is one half of New Zealand's leading adventure travel blogging couple who have been wearing out their jandals around the world since 2009. He loves any adventure activities and anything to do with the water whether it is Surfing, Diving, Swimming, Snorkeling or just lounging nearby on the beach. You can follow Cole on Google+. Or consider following us via RSS Feed, Twitter, Facebook and subscribe to our Newsletter.

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  1. Laurence

    February 13, 2012 at 11:46 AM

    Travelling 24/7 with someone is a serious test of a relationship 🙂 Still.. if your relationship survives it.. you’re pretty much ready for anything!

    • Cole

      February 13, 2012 at 2:05 PM

      I think it is the ultimate test for sure Laurence! Going pretty well after over 2 years on the road 🙂

  2. Trudy Florence

    February 13, 2012 at 12:53 PM

    I really liked this. It’s a lot of the things that my boyfriend and I did while we were travelling. We both love meeting other people and would sometimes spend every night with groups of people. Occasionally we would just pull each other aside and say, hey lets just have dinner by ourselves tonight. Looking after each other is also one of our key motto’s. He’s great at helping me with my bag, carrying some of my heavier things while I like getting up and making or buying him breakfast because he’s a later sleeper than me. Travelling together made our trip so nice because we always had each other to talk to and help with everything. I wouldn’t give up our travel adventures for anything!!

    • Cole

      February 13, 2012 at 2:07 PM

      Totally agree with you on all your points Trudy and we are the same! It’s funny the roles that you assume on the road just to help each other out a little bit 🙂 It’s amazing how much we rely on each other all the time actually!

  3. D.J. - The World of Deej

    February 13, 2012 at 1:18 PM

    Great tips you guys…We learned many of these the hard way, but tend to stick to most of what you’ve listed. Our biggest is the alone or quiet time…It’s good for us to venture apart for a few hours and recharge the batteries…

    • Cole

      February 13, 2012 at 2:08 PM

      Totally need that space D.J! Admittedly we are still learning as we travel but I am sure no couple is perfect 😉

  4. Sam

    February 13, 2012 at 6:09 PM

    Nice article. Good ideas. Relationships do need work and travel can create some pretty big ups and downs. Knowing there will be times when your relationship isn’t the happiest can certainly help you move past it faster and reduce the frequency and severity of the downers.

    • Cole

      February 13, 2012 at 6:30 PM

      Thanks Sam. It is good when travelling as a couple because when the going gets tough you can learn on your other half.

  5. Andrew

    February 13, 2012 at 7:59 PM

    Are you eating the ears first? So they can’t hear the rest?

    We have done some travel together. Actually a lot of our time together has been in travel mode for one or the other of us. We are learning alot about each other doing it. We push each other and support each other. We are also learning that we travel much better together than apart.

    I like the list. Especially the part about spending time alone as well as with other people and not just the 2 of you 100% of the time.

    • Cole

      February 13, 2012 at 10:26 PM

      Hahahaha definitely ate the ears first for that reason. It was too cruel otherwise! Love that you guys travel better together rather than apart.

  6. Jade - Ouroyster.com

    February 14, 2012 at 12:38 AM

    Great article! I think james and I need to try to “date night” idea 😀

    • Cole

      February 14, 2012 at 9:14 AM

      Just a little bit of time out on a “date night” works wonders Jade 🙂

  7. Nomadic Samuel

    February 14, 2012 at 7:20 AM

    Nice tips for couples. As a solo backpacker I can barely take care of myself 😛

    • Cole

      February 14, 2012 at 9:14 AM

      Haha yea I struggle with most things while Adela goes around behind me sorting it out 🙂

  8. Steph

    February 14, 2012 at 1:05 PM

    I definitely agree with these! Taking some alone time is always really important for me. I’m a pretty independent, solitary person so it can be rough for me to spend 24 hours a day with someone else. It helps sometimes just to go out for a walk alone or spend some time reading.

    Another one we’ve learned? Never fight on an empty stomach!

    • Cole

      February 14, 2012 at 5:08 PM

      Hahaha I am terrible at being hangry! Hungry and Angry if that didn’t make sense haha 🙂

  9. thetravelchica

    February 17, 2012 at 8:20 PM

    I’ve never traveled with a significant other, but I’ll keep these tips in mind when I do.

    • Cole

      February 17, 2012 at 9:19 PM

      Thanks Stephanie!

  10. Andi of My Beautiful Adventures

    February 17, 2012 at 11:12 PM

    Great tips even if you aren’t on the road!

    • Cole

      February 18, 2012 at 9:13 AM

      Thanks Andi 🙂

  11. sharon

    February 23, 2012 at 3:32 AM

    Hi there. I read your blog / adventures with interest. You are quite the duo 🙂

    I decided to nominate you for the versatile blogger award today. Here is the link
    http://abumptothehead.wordpress.com/2012/02/23/920/

    Cheers

    • Cole

      February 23, 2012 at 9:25 AM

      Wow thanks Sharon! Will get on to that 🙂

  12. nomadwayoflife

    February 23, 2012 at 11:07 PM

    Oh, puppy love. It warms my heart and gives me warm fuzzies inside. Well, you two certainly seem to have it all worked out (love the part about being one of the locals). Congrats. If only I wasn’t stuck on the lone ranger bit I would definitely follow the same path. My story is a little different. James Bond. I ride alone 😉

    • Cole

      February 24, 2012 at 8:06 AM

      Hahaha well Bond does get quite a few chicks!

  13. cheryl

    February 26, 2012 at 1:36 PM

    Great tips! And glad to see you two manage to keep your romance alive. 🙂

    • Cole

      February 27, 2012 at 9:06 AM

      Cheers Cheryl we try our best. Definitely not always the role model couple though 😉

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  15. Bobbi Lee Hitchon

    March 5, 2012 at 9:31 PM

    Great tips! I’ve been traveling as a couple now for a year and eight months. Funny thing is-we’ve been a couple for that long haha. You really do get to know a person when traveling with him or her, but a significant other even more. It’s amazing having someone to share your adventures with, but it’s important to remember that not every day will be perfect. Hope you guys had a great Valentine’s Day!

    • Cole

      March 6, 2012 at 5:19 PM

      Thanks Bobbi. We are not too big on Valentines Day and our anniversary is the week before (lucky for me, not so lucky for Adela haha). Glad you are enjoying couples travel!

  16. Asia

    March 20, 2012 at 5:52 PM

    Love this article- thanks a ton you two!! My husband and I have been country-hopping since November and so far we’ve been in the craziest situations that have not only tested our comfort levels to some pretty high points, but also our marriage in ways we never could’ve imagined! It’s a crazy, fun, scary, insane game- taking your relationship on a ride like this. But like Laurence said, and we totally agree, if our relationship can survive this…then bring it on!!

    Great post and happy travels!

    • Cole

      March 20, 2012 at 6:44 PM

      No problem! Travel is the hardest thing for a relationship in our opinion. Super hard but it is all worth it 🙂

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  19. Megan Jones

    August 7, 2012 at 4:18 AM

    What great advice. I think that you could take all the advice out of the context of travelling and it would be just good relationship advice! I particularly liked your advice about not sweating the small stuff. I think we often get caught up in minutiae and lose perspective. Just take a step back and take a breath and I bet the fight will melt away!

    • Cole Burmester

      August 7, 2012 at 10:10 AM

      Totally agree with you Megan. A little bit of space works wonders for us. The only problem is in the heat of the moment you often forget that!

  20. Kieu ~ GQ trippin

    February 25, 2013 at 8:08 AM

    Agree on all points!

  21. Jewel

    December 1, 2013 at 8:57 AM

    Two Jandals missing from the bikini shot buddy!!

  22. Adam Burton

    December 3, 2013 at 1:19 PM

    Love all these tips. I have learned a lot on this post, will apply these on our next romantic trip next year.

  23. Jeff

    December 4, 2013 at 8:06 PM

    Great tips man. I do agree with you a little space works wonders. It has been working to us very well. It gives us the opportunity to reflect back and to face the situation squarely.

  24. Hannah

    December 5, 2013 at 3:44 PM

    Awesome tips while traveling. Especially now that I have been traveling with my husband for almost half a year already.

  25. Ivana

    December 5, 2013 at 5:06 PM

    Lovely… Time spent alone helps, indeed.
    We just started our journey, so most probably we will need some tips 🙂

  26. Carlene Lowe

    December 6, 2013 at 9:28 PM

    Haha! I can really relate to this. My husband and I been traveling since 2010 and I couldn’t count the argument, debate and cold war but it ended up to a deeper bond and love. Such a great site you have! Keep the love burning.

  27. Renuka

    December 8, 2013 at 1:04 AM

    Great tips! Yes, travel in itself is romantic. 🙂

  28. Jade Adele

    December 11, 2013 at 6:33 AM

    Great tips 🙂

    It definitely isn’t always easy to stay cool and collected, but remembering that you guys are made for each other always helps!!

    Looks like you guys are doing a good job of it too 🙂

    Yeay for happy couples!

  29. Doula Training by Doula

    December 13, 2013 at 8:14 AM

    Thanks for all this lovely tips. They are so sweet. 🙂 Keep posting.

  30. Rashad Pharaon

    December 16, 2013 at 4:07 PM

    Love these tips and think a lot of them apply to solo travelers too! Being willing to slow down, take in a new place like a local, talk and interact with other travelers and locals, and be willing to push yourself outside your comfort zone – everyone can benefit from these tips for couples.

  31. Ashley Johnson

    December 17, 2013 at 1:41 PM

    Superb Tips!.I use to travel a lot with my wife and we always enjoy our trip where ever we go.Keep on posting such a lovely tips.

  32. Zara @ Backpack ME

    December 26, 2013 at 2:53 PM

    Traveling as a couple is “the ultimate test of true love”. After traveling full-time long term with my partner I knew this is the man I would marry and have a family with! I can’t recommend it enough for couples.. even if it is to travel for a shorter period of time, you learn SO MUCH of one another!

  33. Susan

    December 28, 2013 at 4:19 AM

    Hi Cole,
    Can’t agree more..This is basically a summary of the life of an ideal couple..Great read and worth sharing.

    Thanks
    Susan

  34. Adam

    December 28, 2013 at 1:43 PM

    We personally love to travel but we never considered most of these things, and they are all great advice so they will help make our trips much better.Thanks For sharing good Points

  35. Julio Moreno

    December 28, 2013 at 9:14 PM

    Oh date night… truer words were never spoken. Great tips!

  36. ethanbrown

    December 30, 2013 at 1:34 PM

    Really great post…Thanks to share your great advice and experience..

  37. Jonathan Look, Jr.

    December 30, 2013 at 6:33 PM

    As someone that has been there/done that and has the scars to prove it, I think this very good advice. Especially the not sweating the small stuff. Good advice for life too!

  38. Adrian Tanase

    January 11, 2014 at 4:25 AM

    Lack of sleep always makes you nervous, so sleep more.

  39. Katie

    January 23, 2014 at 5:40 PM

    Giving each other space is vital, as most people don’t spend time in each other’s company 24/7 all the time … we all need our alone time!

  40. The Runaway Guide

    January 27, 2014 at 6:25 AM

    Silently driving across the US sounds familiar haha.
    I would definitely say laughing is key. If you can laugh about anything and everything you’ll be in good shape. Nice tips Cole.

  41. Melisa Lissa

    February 5, 2014 at 11:58 AM

    I’m not sure about the Martin Luther’s quote, or how relevant it is in our modern society; But I love likening marriage to a garden. Sometime you just can’t sum up the energy or enthusiasm, but when you do…. it is well worth the effort

  42. Julie Danes

    February 5, 2014 at 7:32 PM

    Honestly, I think that a beautiful holiday, even on the lowest budget, can help any relationship. We all need that “alone time” in two. 🙂

  43. Tom

    July 6, 2014 at 7:54 PM

    Trust and space, both are the most important components that help to keep any relation alive. If you cant trust your mate, you will always find yourself alone.

  44. Tom Miller

    June 15, 2015 at 2:51 AM

    Hey,

    Thanks for this, I’ll definitely use this in my next Dubai Tour with my wife.

  45. Robert SSteven

    July 2, 2016 at 7:57 AM

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  46. Kelvin Gary

    September 29, 2016 at 3:04 AM

    A great read. Every couple can relate to this.

  47. Smith Johnson Singapore

    October 9, 2016 at 5:47 PM

    Aww. Such a romantic experience. Where is my boyfriend? ehe should see where we are headed next…haha

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Tips for Celebrating Christmas While Travelling

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Christmas is a wonderful time of year to spend with those closest to you and showing them how much you care. However, it can be really tough if you’re travelling away from home. Whether you’re backpacking and hostel hopping or living away in another country -Christmas doesn’t quite feel the same if you’re not at home. However, there’s plenty of things you can do to get into the spirit of things and enjoy your own celebrations.  

Video Call 

One of the most valuable things you can do if you’re away from your loved ones is to call them on Christmas Day. Make sure you establish a time which will work for the both of you as you will have to factor in the time differences. Even though you won’t be in the same country a video call means you can still spend part of the day celebrating together. You can use whichever app works for you. 

Posting Gifts

Just because you’re not in the same country over the holidays doesn’t mean you can’t send one another gifts. You could send your family and friends festive parcels. They could send you things you miss from home, and you could send them trinkets from the country you’re in. Photos and personalised cards are also a great addition to make the gift even more thoughtful. It’s important you use a reliable courier system – like Parcel2Go so your packages get there safely and in time for Christmas.  

Embrace the Experience

If you’re travelling to new places over Christmas, it gives you a great opportunity to do something different. You won’t get to do the normal family traditions so why try something completely new? This could be particularly special if you’re somewhere warm. You could spend Christmas Day on the beach, having a barbecue or swim in the ocean. There’ll be plenty more times with your family and loved ones. Embrace the adventure and see where the day takes you. 

Meet People 

No-one wants to be alone on Christmas. If you’re solo travelling, the thought of spending the whole day alone can be daunting. However, the wonderful thing about solo travel is you’re rarely by yourself. Get talking with people in the hostel, or whatever place you’re staying. You could arrange to do something together.  Or, why not research the place you’ll be in beforehand and see what events are being hosted? You could see what the locals are up to. There are so many possibilities and people waiting for you. 

Just because you’re away from home for Christmas, doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun celebrating it. Whatever you end up doing, you’re bound to create some unique memories for yourself. Do you have plans for Christmas celebrations while travelling? 

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Benidorm is a popular holiday destination with UK families and it is easy to see why because it is an easy and affordable way to have a sun, sea and sand holiday. This does mean that Benidorm doesn’t have the best reputation if you are looking for culture, but there is another side to this sunny Spanish seaside resort which will give you an authentic Spanish experience.

Here are a few of the best things to do in Benidorm that will allow you to escape the crowd and find the hidden gems. 

Placa del Castell

The beautiful Placa del Castell is situated at the point of the promontory between the two beaches and it is perhaps the prettiest area in the resort. Featuring checkerboard tales and white balustrades, this is where Benidorm Castle previously sat but is now an idyllic spot with beautiful views and plenty of surroundings bars.

Old Town

Benidorm’s quaint Old Town feels almost like stepping back in time and can be a refreshing change of pace from the chaotic beaches. With twisting backstreets, whitewashed buildings and impressive architecture, Old Town is a charming place to explore on foot with plenty of shops, cafes, restaurants and bars to visit along the way for an authentic Spanish experience.

Tapas Alley

Leading on from this, in the heart of Old Town is a small, covered alley called Calle Santo Domingo which is lined with inviting tapas bars. This is the best place to sample authentic Spanish cuisine in Benidorm and a chance to see how the locals live – try sampling some wine and tapas and sitting on the tables out in the alley where you can mingle and people watch.

L’Aiguera Park

This long Parkin neoclassical style separates the newer parts of Benidorm from the old and can be a nice place to visit if you are looking to relax and recharge. In addition to the lovely green areas, the park also features two amphitheaters which host a range of cultural shows to check out.

Getting Around

These are a few of the best cultural activities in Benidorm which will allow you to escape the hordes of families. Keep in mind that as such a busy place with tourists, it can be hard to get around which is why it is a good idea to book your transport in advance, including Benidorm transfers from the airport. 

Benidorm has a reputation as being somewhere cheap and cheerful for Brits to enjoy a sun, sea and sand holiday. While there certainly is this side of the Spanish seaside resort, there is also a more cultural, authentic and enjoyable side beneath the surface which is not to be missed and somewhere that allows you to see the real heart and soul of Benidorm. 

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Camping has always been a popular way to take a trip. It can be done in so many ways from a family excursion with all the associated things you need to keep everyone, including children, happy to a solo trek going hiking and climbing in rough and remote terrain. But no matter what form of camping you are getting involved in you need some essential kit that’s important for everyone. 

Tent

Well, you need somewhere to sleep. So no matter what happens a tent is an essential part of the trip. So firstly it needs to be waterproof, and windproof. So although you can indeed pick up a cheap pop-up tent for a few dollars it’s likely that it won’t be up to the task. If you are taking the family then you can get large tents with several rooms and even a living area.  

Sleeping Bag & Mattress 

Next up you are going to need something to sleep in. So a sleeping bag is the first thing to consider. Sleeping bags are rated in two ways, by seasons, as in a four-season bag that will be suitable for spring, summer, autumn, and winter. They are also given a temperature rating, this is done via two values, a comfort value and a survival value, so the first temp, if it is 6 degrees you should be nice and comfortable at that level and then if it has a survival rating of -2 degrees you will survive but it wouldn’t be fun. Also, you will need a sleeping mat or a camping mattress as well.

Transport

You may be hiking and in that case, then you are your own transport. But if you are driving then you need to consider how to transport everything. Often the more space the better but there will always be decisions to be made so try and keep everything to essentially what is useful. You can even think about converting an old vehicle to turn it into a camping van, check out parkedinparadise.com for some great info and guides on how to achieve this. 

Cooking Equipment

Hungry? Of course you are! So we’re going to need cooking equipment. Camping stoves come in a variety of sizes, from a small single burner to a double burner with grill and even bigger barbecues, etc. You also will want to consider camp cookware rather than traditional pots, pans, and plates as the size and weight of the camping versions are designed to be as small and light as possible.

Camp Furniture

You are going to want to sit down and relax, so there is a whole range of camping furniture available these days. You can get everything from normal camp chairs to full inflatable sofas, armchairs and you can get camp kitchens and stores. You can get a fold-away picnic table and even separate pop-rooms to use away from the tents as well. 

So no matter how you do it be sure to enjoy your trip, make sure you have a checklist and bring everything as well.

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